This episode of Intelligent Love is about one of my favorite ways to flirt—text flirting. I will cover some basics both for those in the dating scene and those in long-term relationships.
First, some suggestions for GIVING GOOD TEXT.
recipient can't hear your voice tone or see your face, things can be easily misconstrued; especially in the beginning, SO keep your messages light. If you do WANT convey emotion, exaggerate the emotion by using ALL CAPS, emoticons and exclamation points.
Two, text only when you are in a happy mood.
Three, super sexy or dirty texting should be reserved until after you have hooked up. Then you can play all you want.
Four, keep it light and fun, no heavy stuff via text … amuse her and yourself.
Five, play with the element of timing. If she texts wait at least 5 minutes but never more than half a day to respond.
Make sure you are sending a good first impression because those are critical. Choose wisely— your texts may turn into a make it or break it instant messages. Once you know someone’s particular humor or style of texting, then you will be able to play.
Here are some TEXTING DON’Ts:
First, do not use a text message as the avenue to ask a woman out for the first time. Pick up the phone, if you can’t do it in-person.
Two, never ever use texting to convey deep feelings for the first time they are being exchanged. An acquaintance said her boyfriend told her via text — for the first time mind you — that he loved her. She was thrilled at first, but after the initial joy subsided, she felt a little jilted.
Three, never by any circumstances text when you are drunk or when it is past 11 pm unless you are in a committed relationship—you will regret the text the next day and make her think you are a dweeb looking for a bootie call.
Four, don’t break up with someone via a text. It’s worse than a post-it and some day I guarantee it WILL come back to haunt you.
Five, don’t over text –she should get excited when she sees a text from you, not get a sinking feeling.
Six, make sure you have a healthy balance of texting, calling, emailing and in-person time. It is bad to have texting as your primary mode of communication.
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