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Ronald A. Alexander, Ph.D., is author of the 2009 book Wise Mind Open Mind:
Finding Purpose and Meaning 
in Times of Crisis, Loss Change. Dr. Alexander practices mind/body psychotherapy and leadership coaching in Santa Monica, CA, and specializes in the practice of somatic psychology, creativity and leadership training. He teaches clinical training groups for professionals [...]

This is our second installment of Music Lessons. Today, we re going to look at a song by Sister Hazel. Their tour starts today so Hazel Nuts are going gaga. Their new album, Release, has been a hit. It s the #1 rock album in iTunes. ___ ___ But our focus today is on an older song of theirs, Change Your Mind. Want to feel better about today? Then change your mind! That s the general message of the song. It sounds so simple, but it really is a great prescription. The song starts out, Did you ever think there might be another way to just feel better, just feel better about today? It highlights that all change starts from within. We have to think there is a better way. We have to think differently than we have before to feel better once more. Decide to persevere The song continues, If you never want to leave to turn and go away, you might feel better, might feel better if you stay. Those may be the most powerful words in the whole song. Change your mind by deciding to stay. When the going gets tough, the tough stay and fight. Doesn t have the same ring as the saying we re used to. But flight is often what keeps us from achieving our dreams. The tough persist. They don t give up. The tough resist the natural, human tendency to see the grass as greener on the other side of the fence. Decide to take it all in The next verse starts with some great questions: Have you ever danced in the rain? Or thanked the sun just for shining? Or the sea? Then they tell you why it s so important to ask those questions: Take it all in, the world s a show. And yeah, you look much better, look much better when you glow. Isn t it true? When troubles mount, when a challenge looms large, doesn t it help to just get away for a few minutes and calm down? When you experience the magnificence of nature, the issues you face seem so much smaller. Decide to give up with a twist There s a great twist in the next verse. They say: If you ve had enough of all your tryin , just give up the state of mind you re in. They don t say to give up. They say to change your mind! Look at things in a new way and try, try again! They continue by saying: If you re tired of fighting battles with yourself, if you want to be somebody else, change your mind. Stop. Stop beating yourself up. Stop wishing you weren t you. You are a special person. Change your mind and show the world your gifts. An unusual call to action They close the song with what may be the most unusual call to action we ve ever seen: What ya say we both go and seize the day. Cause what s your hurry, what s your hurry anyway. Get going. Do it now. But don t get in such a hurry to reach your destination that you don t enjoy the journey along the way. Enjoy the good times and the bad. Enjoy the people you love. Because when you do reach your destination, when you re living the life of which you dream life on your own terms, you ll look back and realize that your journey is part of the prize! Change your mind! It leads to bigg success! ___ Would you like more tips and tools to live your life on your own terms? Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Thanks so much for reading our post today. Since we re nearing Halloween, next time we ll haunt you with a tale of four wicked witches that often prevent you from reaching bigg success. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00510-102809.mp3 Related posts Why My Way is the Wrong Way The Logical Way to Rediscover Your Creativity

Today we ll wrap up our series on abundant living. We re tired of hearing about scarcity so we thought it was time to talk about the other side of things. Before we introduce our fifth and final step, let s talk about something we haven t addressed yet in this series. You ll see how it relates to this last step in a couple of minutes. ___ ___ Should you live abundantly? Would living abundantly make you feel guilty? For some, it may because, especially today, we value frugality. Abundance has gotten a bad rap. Some people equate abundance with excess, excess with greed, and greed with evil. Therefore, they think that seeking abundance is wrong. In light of the current economic crisis, coming out of a period of conspicuous consumption, there may be a tendency to go too far the other way. But we re really talking apples and oranges here and that s an important distinction to make. Bigg success is life on your own terms. In other words, to each their own. As long as you re not hurting anyone by having abundance, then enjoy it. And as we ve discussed, abundance usually comes to those who find ways of helping others win as well. So with all that in mind, here s our fifth and final step to finding abundance in a world of scarcity: Share more and you ll have more Want to feel like you re living abundantly? Then give something away! Seems counter-intuitive, doesn t it? If you can t afford to share, you re not seeing abundance. When you give your money or your time away, you re signaling to your brain (and your soul) that you have more than you need. Research shows that sharing has benefits as great as receiving. Allan Luks, the Executive Director of the New York chapter of Big Brothers, Big Sisters, coined the phrase helper s high in his book: The Healing Power of Good. Giving creates an endorphin rush similar to working out. This is the helper s high. Give is a verb. Verbs mean action. So take action today give! You can t afford it? Can you give something you don t use any longer? You may be able to give and de-clutter at the same time! Do you have any canned goods you could donate? Can you give your time instead? Give your attention to someone who s lonely. Sometimes it s not, Buddy, can you spare a dime? It s Buddy, can you spare some time? It s funny how those who are most critical of people with abundance are often the last people to share any of theirs. To twist a line from Seinfeld, can you spare a share? It s the final step to finding abundance. That s bigg success! ___ Get the tips and tools you need to be a BIGG success. Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Thanks so much for reading our post today. Please join us next time when we ll talk about the crazy things people do to reach bigg success. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00508-101609.mp3 Related posts Step 1-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity Step 2-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity Step 3-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity Step 4-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity

Bad news is the news. We hear a lot about the scarcity. We don t hear so much about the abundance. That s why we re talking about steps you can take to live abundantly. We re ready for Step 4: ___ ___ Eliminate zero-sum thinking One of the reasons we don t feel more abundance is because we ve bought into the mindset that everything is a zero-sum game. Somebody has to lose in order for anybody to win. Hollywood says so. Our media tells us that it s the case. Politicians don t get it. Successful entrepreneurs get it. Bigg success is life on your own terms. Implicit in that definition is that you are the entrepreneur of your life. You own it. You are in charge. There s something successful entrepreneurs understand that many people including the elite in our society just don t get. Entrepreneurs know that they win second. In order for them to win, at least some portion of society must win first. They create fortunes because they understand that there are very few zero-sum games in the world. Think about it. In most cases, we do business with people because it s mutually beneficial. If it weren t, we would stop doing business together. So if we take the zero-sum attitude, we won t create value. If one party has to lose so the other party can win, nothing is added to society. Bill Gates got it. He became the richest person in the world because a large number of people felt that Microsoft s products made their lives and / or their businesses better. Some argue about his contribution. That will be true of your contribution as well. You will face critics if you do anything of any significance. But you won t care. You will let the market vote. You will know that you have helped people win because they will vote with their dollars. They choose to work with you because you make their lives better in some way. Warren Buffett got it. Like Bill Gates, he has ascended to the top of the list of the richest people in the world. He did it by delivering returns to his investors that they couldn t achieve on their own. To live abundantly, we must first discard the zero-sum game mentality. ___ Get the tips and tools you need to be a BIGG success. Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Create wealth by creating value The best way to do that is one relationship at a time. We must adopt a win / win attitude in every relationship we have. When we do that we create value. The value of any relationship is the emotional goodwill you have created in that relationship. The sum of the value of all of your relationships is the value of your network. Now and in the foreseeable future, the greatest wealth will be created by people with the best networks. Create value and therefore abundance for other people and you ll find abundance in your own life. Now, please understand that it doesn t happen instantly. In the economy of a previous generation, you had to plant in the spring if you wanted to harvest in the fall. It may take days, weeks, months, or even years for you to see the result. However, if all you see when you look at people is dollar signs, you won t harvest the opportunities presented in the years ahead. You won t create wealth. You won t feel abundance. Put other people first. Look for a win for them with all the fervor you look for a win for you. That s a mindset that leads to bigg success. We re thrilled that you checked in with us today. Thanks so much. Please join us next time as we wrap up this series on abundance. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00507-102109.mp3 Related posts Step 1-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity Step 2-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity Step 3-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity

We re right in the middle of a five-part series. First we talked about feeling fortunate. Last time, we discussed the importance of building a reserve in your schedule and in your finances. Defining what bigg success means to you what it means to live your life on your own terms is a critical component of building a reserve. It s also a part of the third step which we ll discuss today. Step 3 is ___ ___ Conquer Clutter There are two kinds of clutter physical (the one we most often think about) and mental. As long as you have clutter, you won t feel abundance in your life. Physical clutter There are three levels of physical clutter, according to Julie Morgenstern, author of Organizing from the Inside Out: Level 1 clutter means simple mistakes that are relatively easy to fix. Have a place for everything that s easily accessible. If you don t have a place, get it out of your space! Level 2 clutter is about outside forces. You may simply have too much responsibility. You may be going through a transition. Maybe you don t have the space you need. It could even be the person with whom you live! Level 3 physical clutter stems from deeper issues. Some people fulfill their need for abundance by having an abundance of stuff . Others like the thrill of the hunt. It may symbolize a lack of goals. Maybe there s some sentimental attachment to the stuff . It can even indicate a perfectionist, believe it or not. Mental clutter It s also important to clear out the clutter in our minds. We get bogged down in the past. Holding grudges holds us back. Forgiveness frees up our minds and spirits to press forward. Not only do we need to forgive others, we need to forgive ourselves. In fact, if you can t truly forgive yourself, how can you possibly forgive others? Cut yourself some slack, for crying out loud! You deserve a break today! We also need to learn the right lessons from the past. As kids, we put our hands on a hot stove and got burned. So we didn t put our hand on a hot stove again. As adults, we ve put our hand on a symbolic hot stove and gotten burned. How did we respond? We don t turn on the stove anymore! Life is full of risk. Try as you might, you can t avoid it. More importantly, you shouldn t avoid it! Bigg success comes to those who take calculated risks. Sometimes it works out; sometimes it doesn t. Either way, learn from it and then turn that stove on again and cook up some bigg success for yourself! Finally, it s important to understand our strengths and weaknesses. But we clutter our mind with our weaknesses. Then we reinforce those thoughts by telling ourselves all of the reasons why we can t do something. Stop telling yourself what you can t do. Focus on what you can, and will, do! We need to believe that we can do it so we will find a way to get it done. Then we will find abundance. That s bigg success! ___ Get the tips and tools you need to be a BIGG success. Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Thanks so much for the gift of your time today. Please join us next time when we ll take the fourth step to abundant living. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00506-102109.mp3 Related posts Step 1-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity Step 2-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity

Oil supplies are running out fast. Our water supply is going down the drain. Money is tight. Credit has dried up. Don t try to get a loan now. Job losses are permanent. Many of them will never come back. ___ ___ These are a sampling of some headlines we found while researching this post. Scarcity is in the news. It smacks us in the face every time we turn around. Here s our take on it: opportunity is everywhere. There s never been a better time to find yours. Do you doubt it? Then it won t happen for you. When you don t believe you can change your position in the world, you can t. When you do believe it, you re one step closer to making it happen. Yes, we re blasted daily with stories about financial trouble. But we have to overcome stinkin thinkin because we re fortunate to live in a time when there is so much opportunity. Yes, you heard that correctly. Right now, there is so much opportunity! And here s the best news of all the opportunities of today and tomorrow don t require a lot of money to create a lot more money. They do require you to think abundantly. So we thought we d do our part by doing a series of posts five in all on finding abundance. Here s the first step: Start creating a fortune by feeling fortunate. We tend to focus on what we don t have. We beat ourselves up because we haven t accomplished everything we planned to. We experience regret, anger and depression because of our lot in life. We compare ourselves to others and get upset because they seem to be living better than we are. We think they re the fortunate ones. We re wrong. We are the fortunate ones. So we must be different. We must feel fortunate. Start every day by focusing on what you do have. Be thankful for the wonderful people in your life. Congratulate yourself for how far you ve already come. Feel excited about the opportunities, and yes, even the challenges, that you have before you. You ll find that after a couple weeks of this daily session you ll feel fortunate the beginning of living abundantly. When you feel fortunate, you ll find your fortune, however you define it. That s bigg success! For what do you feel fortunate? Share that with us by leaving a comment, sending an e-mail to bigginfo@biggsuccess.com or leaving a voice message at 888.455.BIGG (2444). We re abundantly thankful that you read our post today! ___ Get the tips and tools you need to be a BIGG success. Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Please join us next time when we ll take the second step to living abundantly. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00504-101509.mp3

Having lost his only son Tariq to a gang-related murder, Azim N. Khamisa is a rare individual who not only speaks of powerful and life-changing concepts, but also walks his talk having created a foundation in his son’s name, the Tariq Khamisa Foundation, which is dedicated to breaking the cycle of youth violence by empowering [...]

True self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than these "ups and downs" associated with the changing situations of everyday life. For people with good self-esteem, "ups and downs" may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about...

Today we ll mix up a bigg success shake. They re yummy and good for you. ___ ___ Time We can t imagine a bigg success shake without time. The other ingredients all really depend on it. Don t waste any time because you won t be able to get anymore time until tomorrow. Money Now let s toss in some money. Money s an interesting ingredient. People often ask, How much money do I need? It s a matter of individual taste. Some people like a lot of money; others are perfectly happy with just little. Let s blend these first two ingredients together. But go slowly money multiplies if you don t go too fast. It can actually shrink if you go full tilt. Another tip is that if you don t have enough money, you can substitute time. And if you don t have enough time, you can substitute money. Work and Play Chefs know that great recipes balance ingredients like sweet and sour. The next two ingredients work and play are like that. The more work you put in, the less play and vice versa. Some people can t tell the difference between work and play. To them, work is play. They just really love work. In any case, it is important to include some pure Play in your bigg success shake. You may not notice it right away, but eventually you ll realize that it s missing. You ll regret that a little play wasn t part of your bigg success shake. Growth The more growth you put into the recipe, the faster it all mixes together. You can t get enough growth so be generous with it. Now blend it all together for bigg success! ___ Would you like more tips and tools to live your life on your own terms? Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Thanks so much for joining us today. Please check in next time when we ll talk about financial climate change. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00495-100609.mp3 Related posts The 5 Elements of Bigg Success (Image in today s post from 4score)

Leslie Davenport, M.A., MFT is a pioneer in the role of guided imagery in psychotherapy and integrative medicine, and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with Master s Degrees in both the arts and psychology. Leslie is also an ordained minister in an interfaith Sufi tradition. Her unique background and creative work has been influential [...]

We did another installment of Tutors on TV on the show today. Here s a summary of the conversation: ___ ___ We caught a recent episode of Glee. The phenomenal Jane Lynch plays the hard-nosed, track-suit wearing cheerleader coach Sue Sylvester. Sue also does a segment on leadership and problem solving for a local television station. A quote from that show caught our attention. She said: There s not much of a difference between a stadium full of cheering fans and an angry crowd screaming abuse at you. They re both just making a lot of noise. How you take it is up to you. Convince yourself they re cheering for you. You do that, and some day, they will. Isn t that a profound way to looking at the crowd? It made us think of our definition of bigg success life on your own terms. The crowd could be your friends, your family or your co-workers. It may be people you just met. There s a lot of noise out there and sometimes it drowns out the voice that you need to listen to the most your own! You ll have those in the crowd that cheer. And those in the crowd that discourage. You ll have people in the crowd that cheer while they talk with you. Then they jeer when talking about you with someone else behind your back. You ll have some individuals in the crowd who will literally call you out. Why are you doing it that way? Why are you doing it at all? Why do you do it differently than everyone else? You ll also have your own cheerleaders. They lift you up during introductions at networking events. They point to your expertise on social media sites and recommend you to friends and colleagues. Your crowd will also consist of your competition. They think they can do it better than you. They aren t better than you but they may market better than you. And there will be those in the crowd who are just plain lazy. They will lie about you in an attempt to beat you. You can t please everyone so crowd control is very important to help you keep pushing towards the goals you have set for yourself. Here are five tips to control your crowd: Turn your back on the crowd Sometimes you just have to turn away and tune them out to stay true to yourself. Work the crowd State your goals plainly so they can cheer you on. Make sure they know when you have achieved one of your goals. Beware of the roar of the crowd Be careful that you don t become addicted to their praise. Remember you are doing this for you. If you rely on their cheers, you may fall off your path. Run with the right crowd Surround yourself with people who are passionate about achieving their goals. We call these people bigg goal-getters. Stand out in the crowd Don t be afraid to be different. Show the crowd that it can be done, your way. After all it s your life on your terms. That s bigg success! ___ Would you like more tips and tools to live your life on your own terms? Subscribe to the Bigg Success Weekly it s FREE! ___ Thanks so much for checking in with us today. Please join us next time when we offer up some tips on cutting overhead. Until then, here s to your bigg success! Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed. Direct link to The Bigg Success Show audio file: http://media.libsyn.com/media/biggsuccess/00491-092909.mp3 Related posts One Career Path Leads to Another What is Your Thing?

Dov Baron discusses the secret behind achieving success in your life.

This is one of the top ranking of all Napoleon Hills principles, the principle of self dicipline. In this video, Napoleon Hill speaks about transmuting sexual desires into productive activity because the emotion of sex is the most powerful of all desires and can become a distraction. He speaks about health, wealth and happiness by praticing the art of self dicipline.

We have absolute control over mind and can achieve anything we want in our life. The key is to demand what we want and not beg for it. You can do anything you desire if you embrace this fourth principle Absolute Faith .

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