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The View series page at Hulu.comThe ladies discuss the Gosselin's plans for the holidays.Author: hulu Tags: Shepherd gosselin divorced Joy Elisabeth Hasselbeck Whoopi Behar Goldberg Sherri christmas Posted: 13 November 2009 Rating: 0.0 Votes: 0

The ladies discuss the Gosselin's plans for the holidays.

Actress Courtney Cox talks about her role as Jules Cobb in her new hit series.

Actress Courtney Cox talks about her role as Jules Cobb in her new hit series.

Len Stauffenger, Reiki master, Expert Single Father, Author Getting Over IT! Wisdom for Divorced Parents talks about his engaging and practical book. To find out more go to www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com

Blended Family What stepfamilies themselves, as well as the best family therapists, have known for years, is that the standard of blending is just plain wrong. By: Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. The media is in love with the term blended family. From USA Today to Star magazine to the New York Times, from 20/20 to Oprah, there s no escaping the articles about repartnering with children that don t just label such families blended, but further suggest that blending = success. That is, not blended = failed stepfamily. And the rest of the world follows suit with their practices and expectations. There are web sites for stepfamilies (many of them quite helpful and smart) with names like Blended and Beautiful and Blissfully Blended. Many of the stepfamily members I interviewed over the last three years reported that they found themselves surrounded by friends, colleagues and even therapists who cleave to the notion that these families ought to move on a trajectory toward blending all together, and that anything short of that desired outcome was, well, coming up short. Deficient. What stepfamilies themselves, as well as the best family therapists, have known for years, is that the standard of blending is just plain wrong. It not only misrepresents the reality of life for all the players in a remarriage with children; the concept is also unrealistic and harmful to stepfamilies and individual stepfamily members. Indeed, the Blended Family is what we might call a Big Lie, one of the most entrenched and damaging myths when it comes to stepfamily members getting on with it, surviving, and forming meaningful relationships with each other. What we now know, from lived experience and years of research on families of divorce and remarriage with children, is that judging these families by a first family standard that is, expecting cohesiveness, closeness, and togetherness à la a nuclear family is the surest way to miss the point entirely. Stepfamilies are not only not an effortless, ambrosial smoothie they re not supposed to be. And striving to achieve a first-family-ness is likely unhealthy for everyone involved. A good example of the damage the myth of the blended family wrecks on families is the story told to me by a man I ll call Mitch, a widowed father of two who married Jackie, divorced with a child of her own, about a decade ago. Delighted to have found a life partner to whom he felt deeply connected, Mitch nevertheless told me that his main goal in remarrying had been to give my sons a mother. For his part, he felt he should treat his own sons and Jackie s boy exactly the same, and told me that initially he hadn t even referred to Jackie s son Martin as my stepson but rather, my son. The rest of Mitch s story unspooled from this initial expectation we ll be just like parents to each other s kids, just like a first family in a way that didn t surprise me after my years of research and first-hand experience, but that has shocked and stung millions of stepfamily members over the last decades. Jackie s son resented Mitch s presumptions; Mitch s sons felt the same way about Jackie s attempts to mother them. The three kids rejected their stepparents in every way imaginable refusing to acknowledge them when they walked in the room, talking back, acting out at home and at school which led Mitch and particularly Jackie to redouble their efforts, convinced that they could knit everyone together with enough love. Spurned again and again, they soon felt rejected and resentful of their stepkids. And as the kids fought with each other, Jackie and Mitch were increasingly polarized, their partnership taking on water as they stuck up for their own kids. One day, when Jackie grew furious that Mitch wasn t paying enough attention at Martin s parent-teacher conference, Mitch exploded, feeling cut into pieces. This lead them to couple s therapy with a practitioner who was, thankfully, very experienced with stepfamily dynamics. Stop trying to parent each other s kids, they were told. And stop with the expectation that you re all supposed to blend. This expectation, the counselor told them, was creating enormous stress for everyone. Why were they pushing the idea of everyone loving everyone else right off the bat, and of erasing all their years of separate history and rituals? What was wrong, she asked, with two Christmas trees if the kids found their own way of doing it so important? What was wrong with a kid preferring his own parent? Or with a parent feeling closer to her own child than her stepchild? Nothing. In spite of it rubbing ignorant outsiders the wrong way, successful stepfamilies have learned that super-close first-family dynamics aren t necessary to have good-enough, close-enough ties that sustain and nourish stepfamily members. Residential families, more than one researcher has noted, can have a dorm-like feel: particularly where she and he both bring their own kids to the mix, stepfamily members might eat at different times, even elect not to take all their vacations together. When kids are older and living apart, even less bondedness is the rule. And it seems it is this very lack of closeness that allows stepfamilies to succeed, gel in their own way, and develop positive relationships. The National Stepfamily Resource Center, an organization that has repeatedly called for therapists and the media to stop using the term blended family, has noted that flexibility and respect for difference are more predictive of positive outcome for stepfamilies than tight knit-ness. As stepfamily researcher Dr. Patricia Papernow has noted, When stepfamilies blend, it s because someone s getting creamed. Either the parents are moving too fast and the kids are getting creamed with we re a family expectations, or the adults have this two parent model so the stepparent gets creamed. Too much cohesion too soon may make everyone around us in-laws, friends, even therapists who don t get it feel more comfortable with our stepfamily. But it s not what works for stepparents and stepkids. Lowering our expectations and letting go of the fantasy of blending is the first step to putting together something that s bumpy, but emotionally honest and workable. ©2009 Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., author of Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do About the Author: Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., author of Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do was a regular contributor to the New York Post s parenting page for several years, and her work has appeared in a number of national magazines. She earned her doctorate in comparative literature from Yale and taught cultural studies and literature at Yale, the New School, and Baruch College. Martin, a stepmother for nine years, lives in New York City with her husband and their two sons. For more information please visit www.WednesdayMartin.com. Photo:  Vaughn_Photography

Author: DrPeterVarga Added: Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:32:37 -0800 Duration: 0Document about discrimination of divorced fathers (mainly of the Hungarian one), who fight for shared parenting. The video also demonstrates a terrifying mental child abuse.

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Donald Trump and wife Melania leave an event at MoMa together in New York City where fans are yelling for Melania to sign autographs but she seems to look to Donald for permission before she makes her decision. Donald tells the fans "I want to go HOME!" so they both walk away without signing. One fan says "Boo! Share the wealth!" before an autograph seeker (named "Tony") then begins singing a hilarious song while playing guitar with lyrics that go: "Melania needs to stand on her own feet, and stop letting Donald dictate everything. You got the baby now so there's plenty of child support if you decide to leave. Come on, Melania, you can sign. You got the baby now so there's plenty of money in the future!" and the crowd explodes into laughter.

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