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Wow, things are really getting heated between Jon and Kate Gosselin post-divorce. Jon has finally started speaking out publicly about his failed relationship and why he felt he had to get away from his wife and her alleged abuse. I was verbally abused. I was beaten down, the 32-year-old Jon and Kate Plus 8 dad said on Good Morning America. She separated me from my family. She used to hold the kids over my head and say, Don t spend time with your mom, spend time with your kids. Why can t I spend time with my mom and kids together? he said. Our relationship will never be fixed. I think down the road we might be friends, but at this point in time I don t think so, he said. It s just like the change from America s favorite dad to dirt-bag. Tomorrow I could be maybe America s favorite dad again. It could be after this interview. I don t know. Whatever they want to write, let them write it. They re going to write it anyway. I ve learned that lesson, he added. Kate, on the other hand, is now apparently deciding that mum s the better word. While I certainly have a very different perception of how our marriage dissolved, for the sake of my children I maintain that I m not going to go into details of aspects I believe should remain private, she said. Jon went on to say about filming the show: We film it separately. She has her film crew. And I have my film crew. But I can t sit on the sofa with that woman. I can t sit on someone right now that I despise. I despise [her] because she s not speaking from the heart. Please the stuff you tell me in private should be the stuff you tell me on TV. Jon claimed that he thinks Kate still wears her wedding ring for less than noble reasons: I think she still wears the ring for public perception. I don t wear my ring because she took my ring. I don t have it I laid it down one night. It was gone. Who else would take it? I checked all the underneath my kids pillows. That s where everything ends up in the house anyway. So it wasn t there. He also said that he wasn t 100% sure whether Kate had strayed from the marriage: I speculate, but I don t know that s a general feel. You know, almost like when they were traveling together, I felt jealous. Here, I m Mr. Mom. And then there s some other guy traveling with my wife. Whether it s protection or not, it s all in it s in the back of my mind. Of course, he can t exactly throw stones due to his relationship with 22-year-old girlfriend, Hailey Glassman, even though he did say this: I didn t leave Kate for Hailey. People think I left Kate for Hailey because of the time-frame and what they printed in the tabloids. You can t control who you love. I strongly believe that. You cannot control that. It s two people joined together. [Glassman] is polar opposite of Kate. I feel like I love love her more than I did Kate. I get encouragement from her, I get respect from her. Two things that a man needs. This is someone, I mean, like soul mate like people joke about that. But I m not joking about that. It may just be time for both Gosselins to learn that silence can be the better part of valor for their children s sake if not their own. It s important to make sure divorce has as little negative impact on the kids as possible, something that they both seem to have forgotten. Gosselin Claws Come Out is a post from: LegalBuffet Blog

When it comes to divorce, it s all too easy to focus only on your own needs and desires without considering the ones who should be most important your children. Too true that staying in a bad marriage will have a negative effect on kids, but pulling vicious stunts simply to stick it to your soon-to-be ex will definitely hurt them far more. It s hard to stay courteous when going through a bitter divorce. But, for your children s sake, you should make a serious effort. Steps to help make the process easier on your children: 1. Show and tell. It s crucial that you tell your children how much you love them through words and then follow up by showing that love with your actions. 2. The Blame Game. Do not play the blame game by bad-mouthing your ex to your children, even if they are 100% at fault. You also need to reassure your children that the divorce is not their fault in any way. Repeatedly. Often kids blame themselves for their parents breaking up and need extra reassurance. 3. All They Need is Love. Okay, maybe not literally, but it s a vital element of dealing with the divorce process. Not only do they need to know that you still love them, they also need to know that it s okay for them to keep on loving both parents and that they do not have to choose one over the other. This can be especially tough to handle when the marriage has ended due to infidelity, but remember this is not about what s best for you. It s about your children. They need both Mom and Dad in their lives, and what s between Mom and Dad needs to stay just that. Between Mom and Dad. If your ex is doing something you don t approve of, find a mutually agreeable time to sit down and discuss things calmly and rationally. 4. Don t Sabotage. Do not either actively or overtly sabotage your children s relationship with their other parent, or any new significant others in your ex s lives. You do have the right to be concerned about people who will be spending lots of time interacting with your children. You don t have the right to make everyone miserable due to jealousy or your own inability to deal with your ex moving on. If you can t handle things on your own, please seek out a qualified therapist who can help. 5. Discipline. It s important that both parents continue working as a team when it comes to discipline. Of course that s going to be hard considering that you re now keeping two separate households, but it s important to be as consistent as possible, even after divorce. Children absolutely need structure and limits in their lives, especially when going through rough times. 6. Double-Oh-No. Do not set your children against your ex as messengers or spies. You need to take the initiative to communicate clearly and politely with your ex. First of all, it s not your children s responsibility to play double oh seven. Secondly, just think about how much children try to play their parents off each other when they re happily married. Now multiply that by ten after their parents are divorced. Much as you love your children, you can t expect them to behave as maturely as adults. Chances are they re going to try and exploit the situation at least once by exaggerating or mis-stating something your ex has said or done. Get all the facts before you flip out. 7. Can t Buy Me Love. Don t try and buy your children s affection, or out cool the other parent. What your children value most, whether they ll admit it or not, is quality time spent with you. While there s nothing wrong with treating them to a fantastic time out on occasion, you shouldn t be trying to outdo your ex or assuage your own feelings of guilt by what amounts to little more than bribery. Besides, you don t want to create monsters out of your kid. That will bite you in the rear down the road! 8. Gotta Laugh or You ll Cry. Hard as it is, try to keep your sense of humor. Don t always assume the worst of your ex. Really try and keep a friendly relationship, even if he or she has done some unforgivable things to you. Your children are your most precious treasure and they need both Mom and Dad in their lives. Since you re going to be tied to your ex for the rest of your life, you might as well keep your sense of humor about things. It s better to laugh than cry! If you re considering divorce or your spouse has already filed for divorce, you should find an experienced attorney who won t let you get walked all over but who also won t make things more contentious. After all, someone needs to think of the children!

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In today’s episode, I continue my discussion of with Max Sindell, the author of a book written specifically for children of divorce called “The Bright Side: Surviving Your Parents’ Divorce.” He wrote this book specifically for children to help share his experience, demystify the process for children and help them find the “bright side” in his parents’ divorce. We’ll continue our conversation about parental dating, remarriage and new stepparents, how children can best handle the pros and cons of their parents divorce. You can find out more about Max and his work at www.survivingyourparentsdivorce.com

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