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Tantrums, meltdowns, and hissy fits can be a nightmare for parents. In this episode of The Lab, Daddy Clay and Daddy Brad tackle this important child behavior topic. Since we're all about fairness here at DadLabs, we'll first show kids some techniques for throwing a temper tantrum and getting the most of their meltdown, including the best locations for their hissy fit. We also speak with early parenting coach, Carrie Contey, PhD. to learn why temper tantrums happen how child development.

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Today we are going to discuss your job as a parent in terms of your role in giving orders and being the authority figure in your home. It is very important to realize that you are the authority figure in your home and that your children need an authority figure. Many of us grew up in the seventies where our parents did not boss us around, and so we kind of cringe at the idea of ordering our children around. It bothers us internally to be giving them orders. But the problem is that your children need you to be the authority figure. You are in charge of the house and you, as parents, must be the ones responsible. Again, your children need this. So, when you are giving orders, and you must give orders, it is important to be clear and precise, not vague or suggestive. Parental orders and rules must be clear. For example, let s say you have a rule that there is no television before doing homework. You come home and your daughter Jennifer is watching television. Do not go to her and say, Jennifer, you are supposed to do your homework before you watch television, maybe you should turn off the television . This is not being an authority figure. What you do say is this: Jennifer, you have homework, turn off the Television and do your homework now, please . You walk away and Jennifer must comply. If Jennifer does not comply, there are consequences. You may tell your child any of the following: no television for the next week or the next couple of days; no television in the bedroom; no television until the homework is done first for three days straight. The point is that you must be clear, precise and know that you are in charge. You do not have to be cruel, combative, yell, or scream. You can be friendly about it. But you must be precise, give your instructions clearly, and know that you are the authority figure. Your children must know this too, and they need to know this because that is what is good for them.

Getting a child to go to school when he refuses can be a very trying experience, especially in the early morning hours. What do you do with a child who cannot stand and refuses to go to school? You try to get him out of bed ten times. He won t get out of bed. He curses at you or says nasty things. You wind up forcing him and dragging him out of bed to go to school. How do you handle that problem? I have already discussed in other articles how to get a child who wants to go to school out of bed. You do that by making it his responsibility. You let him sleep late and he knows he will get in trouble. He bears the consequences and eventually realizes that he has to take responsibility. But a child who does not want to go to school, will be glad you let him sleep late. So what do you do about that? In most states and countries, there are laws that say a child has to go to school. It is a child s legal responsibility to get up and go to school. If he is not doing that and is making it difficult for you to get him to go to school, you have to place the responsibility back in his hands. The way you do that is by getting him up and out of bed. He ll most likely he go back to bed and go to sleep. You let him sleep. That is what happens the first day. You get up the next morning and say get up once. He will not get up. He goes back to sleep and misses school the second day. After three or four or five days, he is labeled as a truancy problem and that is a problem that the school has to handle. The school has policies and procedures to deal with truancy and it is now their job to take care of him and get him to school. Your child is now going to face the consequences of his actions. When you continually drag your kid out of bed, make him go to school against his will, and have to fight with him every day, you are basically taking over the responsibility for your child. You do not want to do that. You want your child to fulfill his obligations or face the consequences himself. What you do is let the school handle the problem. Contact the school and say you have a truancy problem, you cannot get your kid out of bed, and he will not go to school. They will then take care of the problem. Your child will deal with the school directly. That is how you teach your child responsibility, because you will not be there ten years from now when Todd has to go to work. You do not want to be the one dragging him out of bed to go to his job, nor do you want his wife to have to do that to get him to go to his job. He is going to have to learn the responsibility to do what he has to do or face the consequences. There is better time to learn it then now, when he is still a child. As he gets older, if he is not responsible, he will have a very difficult life. Your job as a parent is to train him, to teach him to lead a very proper, normal, and productive life. He has to be able to accept responsibility to do the things he does not want to do. That is the way of the world.

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Monitoring a child s behavior is essential in getting you to know who your child is and what his needs are. Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a disorder that should be looked into. But, how can you tell if your child has it? As you may or may not know, ODD is a child behavior disorder which is characterized by negative, hostile and defiant behavior in children. Teenagers, and some people even think adults, may also have it. A lot of spouses complain to me that they think their husbands or wives have this problem even though it has not been diagnosed specifically in these people. There are eight criteria that psychiatrists use to identify ODD in a child. Your child has to show four of these eight behaviors "often" in the last six months in order to be diagnosed with ODD: 1. The child often loses his temper. 2. The child often argues with adults. 3. The child often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults requests or rules. 4. The child often deliberately ignores people. 5. The child often blames others for his mistakes. 6. The child is easily annoyed by others. 7. The child is often angry or resentful. 8. The child is spiteful and vindictive. If you think about these eight criteria, almost all children display these at some time in their lives. These behaviors are very common at certain ages. The real problem in diagnosing ODD is defining what is considered often , meaning more common that what is considered normal. That is how you make a diagnosis and it is really more of an art than a science. But, we do have some general rules about what often means. #1. For example, often loses temper usually means two times a week. If your child loses his temper twice a week this is considered more often than normal. #2. Often argues with adults means that it occurs two times a week. If your child actively defies or refuses to comply with requests twice a week this too is called often. If your child does these things more than two times a week, it is considered unusually common and it could be an indication of ODD. #3. "The child often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults requests or rules." If your child does this twice a week this is considered often. #4. often and deliberately ignores other people is considered often if it happens four times a week. If a child does it three times a week, this is considered normal behavior for most children. #5. "your child often blames others for his or her mistakes". This is not a common behavior for a child so if he does it at all it could be a sign of ODD. #6. your child is often easily annoyed by other people . Often is two times a week. #7. Your child is often angry or resentful . This is four times a week . #8. your child is spiteful or vindictive - that is if it happens at all in the last six months because that is not considered normal child behavior. Again, this is rough criteria. Even if your child meets these criteria, it does not mean your child has ODD. It is however worthwhile to look into getting a diagnosis.

Out of control behavior in children and teens is a very common and distressing problem for parents. Although it can be very stressful and confusing, here are a few tips that will help you know what to do about it. As discussed previously, bad behavior is a result of a learned response. This means that the child spontaneously for some reason acted inappropriately when he was young- he threw a tantrum or broke things, etc.- and as a result of the behavior the adults around him gave in to the child s desires. They either gave in because it was a bad time for them or because they were too embarrassed by the behavior to deal with it. Whatever the reason, if this happened often enough the child would realize that he can get what he wants by acting inappropriately. In other words, the child learned a special technique that he can get what he wants if his behavior is disruptive. Bad behavior is not an inborn. It is learned. You have to un-teach the behavior and you have to do it immediately. Here is the reason why. As your child gets older, he is going to want more things, bigger things, more dangerous things. He will learn that if you give in to bad behavior all he has to do is escalate the behavior and he will eventually get what he wants. That will make your life very difficult. It will disrupt your peaceful home environment. This is why many parents have such a hard time with defiant teens. Since early childhood these children learned that they can use their inappropriate behavior to get their parents to give in. Teens often become more aggressive with their behavior. They will break walls, punch through doors, and break windows. These teens also use all sorts of abusive and cursing language. Defiant children understand that bad behavior is an effective technique to get what they want. Remember, though, it is a learned technique. You have to un-teach your child by not giving in to abusive behavior. It is not a hard thing to do, but it is not a pleasant thing to do either. Also, this is not something you can do gradually. It is not a weaning process. Your decision not to give in to your child's tantrums and abusive behavior must be absolute. Your child's first response will be to escalate the behavior. It is critical at that point not to give in. When your child acts out, you must hold your ground. Eventually, your child will understand that acting out is no longer an effective way of getting what he wants. He will stop acting out. However, until he has that realization, he is going to escalate his behavior though. Be prepared for this. A key thing to remember is that you should not get into a battle or a conflict with your child if you are not able to follow through. That means if you have to run out for an appointment, or if you have an important phone call, or for some reason you cannot sit it out, wait it out, and endure whatever your child is going to do, you should not get involved in the conflict. The worst thing you can do is to begin to make a stand and then back down. By backing down you are encouraging your child to escalate the negative behavior. Again, it cannot be stressed enough that this bad, abusive, and out of control behavior in children and teens is a learned process. And because it is a learned behavior, you must un-teach your child. The unlearning process is a hard one. You will experience a lot of unpleasantness. However, you must go through with it because if you do not, your child's behavior is going to get worse over time. These behavior problems will not go away or get better by themselves.

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Today we are going to discuss how to help your child develop better social skills. Many children with ADHD or oppositional defiant disorder or other behavioral problems or learning disorders have trouble with social skills; meaning they have trouble with making friends and they have trouble keeping friends.These children behave inappropriately in social situations and here is the reason for this. Children with learning problems or behavioral problems have trouble globalizing what they learn. Generally speaking, the way a child learns how to behave properly by observing those around him; what other people do in certain situations and then applying what he learns to new situations. This is called globalizing Children with ADHD or ODD or learning disorders have trouble taking what happens in one situation and applying it to a new situation. They have trouble globalizing what they learned. Therefore, what you as a parent have to do is to teach them how to do that. You prepare your child ahead of time for new social situations. Let s say, for instance, your child has trouble relating to friends. What you would do is have him invite a friend over and you prepare him before hand how he should behave with a friend. You teach him he should offer the friend something to eat or to drink. He should be prepared what toys he wants to share. You coach him how to behave with a friend properly. You do not just say place nicely because he does not know what that means. In very detailed ways, you prepare him before hand. You want to teach your child manners. Let s say you want to go out to a restaurant. Teach him to order for himself, to say please to the waiter and thank you to the waiter. You coach him before hand on how to handle the situation. Tell him you say this, you say that, you say please, you say thank you and you smile and make eye contact with the person . What you need to do is to teach your child in every situation you can how to handle that social situation. In that way, he will learn how to develop better social skills.Again, there is nothing wrong with such a child. He is not bad person. He just has trouble learning how to take what he knows from one situation and apply it to a new situation. That is where you as a parent come in. You teach them how to behave in new situations.