DearZanny

A voice mail from Becky show asked:  What suggestions do you have?  I found my husband likes to look at women on-line.  Should I trust him or confront him?  Listen and learn. Check out this listener's questions/comments at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Clearly, I'm not there yet.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

A voice mail from a chronic cheating wife.  She self-reports she has cheated throughout her 9 year marriage.  Her breaking point?  She contracted two STD's and is disgusted with herself.  Why does she do it, and what should she do now?  Listen and find out.  Check out this listener's questions/comments at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Clearly, I'm not there yet.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Email from Annie in CA regarding her abusive father.  It's NOT OK.  Push the play button and listen - the email in it's entirity is posted on my website.  Check out this listener's questions/comments at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Clearly, I'm not there yet.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

VM from Stephanie in Lousianna needs help in letting go over her husband's former poor financial decisions.  She wants to know how to let it go!  Click below and listen. Check out this listener's questions/comments at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Email asks:  How many of you have jealous spouses, and how do you deal?   Jealous or possessive feelings crop up naturally in most relationships.  When is it too extreme and neurotic?  When it impacts your daily living and relationship to the extreme.  What to do?  Listen and find out.  Check out this listener's email in its entirity on my website/Blog at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Bereaved mom emails about her stillborn daughter on 1 JUN 208.  She and her partner have an 18 month old son.  Mom wonders how she is going to get through this and keep her sanity - because it's much harder than she ever thought it would be.  Listen. Check out this listener's email in its entirity on my website/Blog at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Marion from WI left a vm and wants to know if she should tell her friend information she heard from another friend about her child.  The child, assuming they're an adolescent, is involved in high risk behaviors.  What to do?  Listen and see what you think. Check out this listener's email in its entirity on my website/Blog at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Shannan's marriage has some big time problems: verbally abusive husband who's addicted to on-line porn and she's emotionally over-eaten and gained 80-100lbs.  Should she stay so her son has both parents?  What would you do?  What do the experts say about divorce vs. dysfunctional marriages? Check out this listener's email in its entirity on my website/Blog at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Wife discovers her husband's cell phone photos from last nights party - must have been a wild one because she discovered pictures of 2 women making out.  Husband doesn't understand why the wife is furious.   Would you be?  What would you do?  How to get the dialgoue going without getting balistic...  everything is negotiable. Check out this listener's email in its entirity on my website/Blog at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.   *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Sometimes when it seems like we have it all - we don't.  Something's missing.  It's even embarrassing to try to explain these feelings to someone else when they may actually envy our life.  But, depression can happen to anyone at anytime for so many reasons.  Check out this listener's email in its entirity on my website/Blog at: www.DearZanny.com followed by a written response for suggestions.  These suggestions, generally speaking, apply to many people struggling with depression.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. I finally installed a Levelator program to make vm's easier to hear.  My goal is to eventually have 1 show/day.  Your emails and voice mails are what make this show work.  THANKS for sharing yourself.  *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any suggestions are general in nature and never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I cannot answer e-mails directly - but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Amanda from IL left a vm and expressed frustration with her girlfriend - but acknowledged,  I know it's me.   Anytime we get a zing from someone - stop, go to the nearest mirror, and look at your reflection.  It's nearly always a projection.  What characteristics does that person carry that you either deny in yourself, or feel too inferior to own?  It's normal, you're human, and - we all do it!  Projection is a gift, because it allows us to see what we most need to integrate into our own psyche.  It's all good.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

How far do we go for our friends?  What are the boundaries when we've had life long buddies?  Yikes, always a tough one.  I believe in loyalty to a fault with friends, and covering their six in most situations - except when kids are involved.  Listen to Beth's dilema as to whether or not she should testify in court for her friend when she knows her friend has lied... I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Amanda from IL left a vm and expressed frustration with her girlfriend - but acknowledged,  I know it's me.   Anytime we get a zing from someone - stop, go to the nearest mirror, and look at your reflection.  It's nearly always a projection.  What characteristics does that person carry that you either deny in yourself, or feel too inferior to own?  It's normal, you're human, and - we all do it!  Projection is a gift, because it allows us to see what we most need to integrate into our own psyche.  It's all good.  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too. Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Tim Russert, aged 58, died this week of a cornonry emoblism.  I always liked him - he seemed like a really nice and decent man.  Lolita S. emailed and wanted to know why his death feels so painful to her when she never met him.  If you have felt this way, ask yourself:  How is this situation similar to something I've experienced before?   Think hard.  Your answer will give you THE answer.  Get it?  Good! : )  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too.Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

I've been MIA the last two months - I had a cancer recurrence, surgery, then off to a healing retreat in Eagle Nest, NM for a week.  I just returned several days ago and have been catching up with my clients.  Thanks for hanging in there with me.  I recieved multiple emails and voice mails - which really inspire me to keep going!  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too.Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

I've been MIA the last two months - I had a cancer recurrence, surgery, then off to a healing retreat in Eagle Nest, NM for a week.  I just returned several days ago and have been catching up with my clients.  Thanks for hanging in there with me.  I recieved multiple emails and voice mails - which really inspire me to keep going!  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too.Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

I've been MIA the last two months - I had a cancer recurrence, surgery, then off to a healing retreat in Eagle Nest, NM for a week.  I just returned several days ago and have been catching up with my clients.  Thanks for hanging in there with me.  I recieved multiple emails and voice mails - which really inspire me to keep going!  I prefer voice mails because it makes the show more interesting, but emails are great too.Listen and leave me a voice mail! *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Help make this show more interesting by leaving a voice mail.   *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help.  For legal reasons, I will not answer e-mails directly but will use them on a future show so listen and subscribe to have DZ automagically delivered to you.

Kim from TX sends an email to TheDivaCast.com first, and we (The Divas) agreed that it was better responded to by me, Zanny.  Kim has been married for 5 years to a wonderful father, a good provider, and a life partner...   but his fatal flaw is the verbal abuse he spews, sometimes daily, at Kim.  She has tried various tactics to entice him to change his behavior.  Nothing has worked.  What needs to happen now?  *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125  Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice suggestions are never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

This email came from Anabella, a 42 year-old Italian immigrant.  Her own mother was abusive both phsycially and emotionally.  Now, Anabella's father is dying and her mother wants Anabella and her two young children to stay with her.  NO! NO! NO!  Anabella - you're entitled to protect yourself.  Listen how.  Two wonderful books on this topic that I highly recommend are: 1) Toxic Parents by: Dr. Susan Forward and 2) The Drama of The Gifted Child by: Alice Miller. *Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  *Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

Pursuer-distancer relationship dynamics occur in all types of relationships - lovers, siblings, and friendships - but why?  What does the pursuer need that the distancer senses and makes them RUN?!  The pursuer (one who's chasing) needs to take a deep breath and stop for a moment and ask themselves, What is it I am asking the other do do for me that I cannot do for myself?   Each of us is responsible for our own emotional well-being.  It's a fairytale to think someone else can fulfill us all the time in every way.  It is our responsibility to do our own inner work and become emotionally self-reliant. Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125 Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Zanny Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

Healthy boundaries within close friendships can be a challenge to many.  What do you do when your friends want to ride with you to a party, or hang out with you longer than you do?  How do diplomatically set your limits.  Leah from San Diego left a voice mail asking just this - something so many of us struggle with!  Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125 Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Zanny Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

My nunconscious impulse - which I could not resist, got me to buy a Army green Jeep Wrangler.  What's up with that?  My ANIMUS is screaming to be heard!  Yes, my inner masculine self has been duct-tapped for nearly a decade - but that tape has decayed and my animus is coming out.  Swiss psychiatrist, C.G. Jung termed Animus as the masculine side of a woman's unconscious mind, and the Anima as related to men's inner female.  Be careful, because the very part of our psyche that we ignore, is the part who will always show up un-invited and least expected.  How do you allow expression of your inner opposite gender function?  Talk To Me!  Call me: 678-884-0524, or Listen by cell phone: 1-801-823-1125 Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  love,  Zanny Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

A voicemail from Courtney in LA gets the conversation cranked!  Last night was the season premiere of The Bachelor TV show.  Twenty-five women to one (OK, Brad is very hot) man.  The women all know the score and all know before they don their designer dresses and high heels that ten of them will be sent home the next day.  The ten who went home were clearly upset and crying.  But why?  How can they have any real attachment to a guy they just met?  Well, sorry Hottie Brad, most of it is not about you - at least not yet.  All of the women are buying into a romantic fantasy... and several other dynamics are at work too - including previous rejection and abandonment issues.  Listen and share your own thoughts  Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

Today marks the 6th anniversary of 9/11.  Why do we still invest so much time and energy into commemortaing the dead?  Because sudden death almost always complicates the healing process.  Ritual facilitates healing; often when ritual is missing, griever's get stuck.  Rituals don't have to be expensive or lengthy or involve anyone else.  They can be simple but simulatanesouly so powerful.  We will all experience the loss of someone we love.  Zanny's brother, Rob, was killed in an American Eagle plane crash on Halloween Day, 1994.  Nine months later, her mother-in-law, Nelly, was murdered.  Zanny is certified from the American Academy of Bereavement as a grief-support group facilitator, she has published her work on grief, and presented to numerous groups and organizations. Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

Frustrated mom leaves a vm.  Her 5 year-old son who was potty trainned is wetting the bed.  He doesn't want to wear pull-ups and mom doesn't want to shame him (Thank Goodness!)  How does a mom handle this one?  First question:  What's going on in little one's environment?  Next question, could be physical... Listen and learn. Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny Disclaimer:  Dear Zanny is for entertainment purposes only.  Any advice offered is never intented to substitute proffessional help. 

The woman from TX left a vm and said my advice worked....phew!  I love it when that happens!  She was frustrated, confused and hurt when her new romantic interest put the brakes on and said, We're going to be OK, but I need to take things more slowly.   That's always an ouch.  She wanted to be the cat and do some pursuing/chasing ~ always a big no-no; why?  Because the mouse almost always escapes.  Don't get stuck in this common relationship dynamic - listen and learn. Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny

A concerned mom emails Zanny.  Mom asks advice regarding her 13 year-old daughter who recently has begun to lie - even about silly things.  Mom isn't usually punitive but wants this behavior to stop.  What should she do?  Is it a phase, or something more serious?  Listen to find out! Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny

A caller asks:  My dog, Molly, died of cancer several months ago, we were constant companions.  I still miss her.  My friends and some family members think I'm silly.  Am I normal to still feel so sad?  Answer:  Yes!  Pet loss hurts.  We become so attached to our beloved animals - regardless what species it may be.  However, to rule out if your grief needs some proffessional intervention, listen to be sure. Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny

A caller asks:  My boss is hitting on me - and I'm not interested!  He doesn't seem to hear me.  I really love my job - but this is really stressing me out!  HELP!  Listen on how to protect yourself and your career ... Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny. Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny

A listener is in a new marriage - a second one.  Her new step daughter is difficult and sulky.  This is a classic pursuer-distancer (or cat and mouse game ) relationship dynamic.  The one person pursues while the other RUNS!  Guess who has the power?  Answer:  The one doing the running.  Avoid this common dynamic by taking a firm-but-gentle stance.  Listen how... Talk To Me!  Call me at 678-884-0524. Email me:  Zanny@DearZanny.com.  Do you need relationship advice?  Call Zanny! Let's talk!  Blessings to one and all.  love,  Zanny